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Voting Question: People who had never had a gf in high school or trained social counselors please answer?

Hi. I am in 10th grade and I have been having dating and social problems since 8th grade. For some reason, I always had a problem getting a girlfriend. I wanted one since freshman year of high school as that is what most of my friends have. I am the only guy in my group who doesn’t have a girl friend or girl friend. Yes I definitely pay attention in school and I earn good grades. But when it comes to spare time, this is what I ponder on.

I am a quiet person. Usually the one that the teachers call “The Best Student” since I always do well on their test. However, when this happens, I always get ignored because I do not go by the “teenager bible”. For example most teens wear skinny jeans. I wear regular pants. Teenagers have a specific type of style like purple clothing or graphic t-shirts from a Zumiez store, I do not. Teenagers wear Vans, Etnies, Airwalk, etc. I wear walking shoes. Teenagers wear these non-prescription glasses. I wear prescription type glasses. If it comes to a social gathering sadly I have not been able to go to one, last time I went to one was in 7th grade, I would be the one sitting at the table while everyone else is doing these weird dances on the dancefloor.

For my appearance, I have gained positive views from older woman adults (since adult is who I hang around 85% of the time. In this point it is parents) consistently being called “handsome” by them. However, where it comes to the point for me as a dating person, it is a whole new universe. It feels like I am in a shadow where I am not liked by anyone and have a horrible appearance. But I do not have a horrible appearance. In fact I have never been called “handsome” or any positive complement by a TEENAGER GIRL. Confusing isn’t it and I’m not even an adult yet. Do not put me in a role where I would date an adult.That’s not my point. My point in this section is I am more complemented by older adult women than teenager girls to sum it up.

So now I am young, yes I am young one year younger than my class, I’m about to be a junior and this is basically my last chance getting a girlfriend. If I do not get one in high school, there goes my dating years and I have to be force as a single person for the rest of my life. No kisses. No hugs. No good friends.

However, for the past 2 weeks since school is about to end I have been thinking “I’ll just give up the girlfriend problem and not have one in high school. There is no point in me having one since it is really hard for me to have one as of course I am a smart and handsome person. But, I guess girls do not like those type of guys. No Sadie’s (a dance), No Prom, No Friday Night Movies. No theme parks. The only thing I can do is explore the world and just go on from there.” All my other friends are going to have a good social life except me. It makes me feel out of their group for what I have with my social life. Sometimes I have to sit by myself because I cannot relate to some of the teenagers. It is terrible and I do not want that life in college and after college.

Anyway Im pretty much deciding to bypass dating (unless a miracle happens in my junior or senior year) and not have a girlfriend and when Im older a wife. For anyone who has not had a girlfriend, date, feel free to tell about your experience and how you survived life without having a girlfriend or a date. Guy and Girls are free to respond about their experience. If you are a socialcounselor or know about dating you can speak also. Please no rude comments.

“It may be easier for you to have a girlfriend or a good social life but it is not easy for me. Don’t spread the advantage to one person just becausee someone else is different”- Me